Understanding Clairsentience – Have you ever been told that you are just too much? That you expect too much? That you are too sensitive or other people are intimidated by you? You’re just too …
Throughout my life, I can’t tell you how many times I was told exactly these words, “Lynnette, you are just too much.” We learn who we are by how others respond to us. As such, I quickly realized I had to tone down who I was – not be myself, so I could be liked, who am I kidding, it was so I could be loved and included. This catapulted me into being this angry teenager who rebelled against everything and almost everyone.
You can guess how that turned out, anger + chaos + teenage hormones = complete mess.
At the time, I didn’t know my extreme sensitivity was the source of my struggle. I was convinced I was too much. I was told it was wrong to be loud, fierce, or different. So of course, I acted out, fighting, resisting, not understanding why I felt so intensely all the time. My only strategy was to take the fight outward to push against those who said I was too much, to prove I wasn’t too much and that I was ENOUGH.
It wasn’t until I began working deliberately with my intuition, that I was able to understand what I had been experiencing for so long. This extreme intense sensitivity, was in fact Clairsentience, a powerful channel of Divine Guidance, that comes through in the form of our senses, feeling, smelling, and even tasting.
What a relief to understand and be validated that what I was experiencing was real. That it was ok to take up space, to be me, even if others were uncomfortable or intimidated by me being me.
I feel like there are thousands of Clairsentients out there who are walking around thinking they are just too much, that they don’t fit into our world because of they’re too much of something and not enough of something else.
I want to share with you, there are ways to work with your Clairsentience so you don’t feel every little thing. There are strategies for you to understand where these intuitive nudges are directing you to.
The first and most important step in working with your Clairsentience is to determine: is this how I feel? Or is this someone else’s? Do I feel this inside – is it mine?
If you feel a yes, then own it as your feelings and do the work with it, journal, meditate – sort yourself out, where you stand, why it showed up.
If you feel a no, then notice your surroundings, as you glance around look at the people, the animals, even the trees and nature, and ask who am I picking this up from? And you will be directed to feel and know. At that moment, send love and a blessing to that person, animal, etc. you never know, they may be feeling like they’re too much too.
There is a reason we have this ability and it’s up to us to use it.
So, the next time someone tells you that you’re too much, that you intimidate other people or you’re too sensitive, own it! Claim it! Say YES sweet darling I AM THIS AND SOOO MUCH MORE!! Then share this incredible poem by Ev’yan Whitney so they can see that you are indeed TOO MUCH!!
The TOO MUCH WOMAN
There she is. . . the “too much” woman. The one who loves too hard, feels too deeply, asks too often, desires too much.
There she is taking up too much space, with her laughter, her curves, her honesty, her sexuality. Her presence is as tall as a tree, as wide as a mountain. Her energy occupies every crevice of the room. Too much space she takes.
She is dangerous.
And there she goes, that “too much” woman, making people think too much, feel too much, swoon too much. She with her authentic prose and a self-assuredness in the way she carries herself. She with her belly laughs and her insatiable appetite and her proneness to fiery passion. All eyes on her, thinking she’s hot shit.
Oh, that “too much” woman. . . too loud, too vibrant, too honest, too emotional, too smart, too intense, too pretty, too difficult, too sensitive, too wild, too intimidating, too successful, too fat, too strong, too political, too joyous, too needy—too much.
She should simmer down a bit, be taken down a couple notches. Someone should put her back in a more respectable place. Someone should tell her.
Here I am. . . a Too Much Woman, with my too-tender heart and my too-much emotions.
A hedonist, feminist, pleasure seeker, empath. I want a lot—justice, sincerity, spaciousness, ease, intimacy, actualization, respect, to be seen, to be understood, your undivided attention, and all of your promises to be kept.
I’ve been called high maintenance because I want what I want, and intimidating because of the space I occupy. I’ve been called selfish because I am self-loving. I’ve been called a witch because I know how to heal myself.
And still. . . I rise. Still, I want and feel and ask and risk and take up space.
I must.
Us Too Much Women have been facing extermination for centuries—we are so afraid of her, terrified of her big presence, of the way she commands respect and wields the truth of her feelings. We’ve been trying to stifle the Too Much Woman for ions—in our sisters, in our wives, in our daughters. And even now, even today, we shame the Too Much Woman for her bigness, for her wanting, for her passionate nature.
And still. . . she thrives.
In my own world and before my very eyes, I am witnessing the reclamation and rising up of the Too Much Woman. That Too Much Woman is also known to some as Wild Woman or the Divine Feminine. In any case, she is me, she is you, and she is loving that she’s finally, finally getting some airtime.
If you’ve ever been called “too much,” or “overly emotional,” or “bitchy,” or “stuck up,” you are likely a Too Much Woman.
And if you are. . . I implore you to embrace all that you are—all of your depth, all of your vastness; to not hold yourself in, and to never abandon yourself, your bigness, your radiance.
Forget everything you’ve heard—your too much-ness is a gift; oh yes, one that can heal, incite, liberate, and cut straight to the heart of things.
Do not be afraid of this gift, and let no one shy you away from it. Your too much-ness is magic, is medicine. It can change the world.
So please, Too Much Woman: Ask. Seek. Desire. Expand. Move. Feel. Be.
Make your waves, fan your flames, give us chills.
-Ev’yan Whitney-
Here’s to you embracing your too much-ness and changing the world!
Big LOVE,
